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Who are cis, and how can educators better embrace gender diversity? with Rachel Kuysten - Episode 4 UNLEARN

In this episode of UNLEARN, we delve into the concept of cisgender with Rachel Kuysten (she/her), an experienced educator and advocate for gender diversity. Together, we unpack what it means to be cis- or transgender, how language shapes our understanding of gender, and why awareness is only the first step toward allyship.

Rachel shares insights on navigating cisnormativity in schools, recognising privilege, and challenging biases to foster environments where all students can thrive. Milla reflects on her own learning journey, the discomfort that comes with unlearning, and why embracing that discomfort is key to real growth.

Whether you are new to these concepts or looking to deepen your understanding, this episode hopefully provides thoughtful discussion, practical ideas, and resources to help educators create more inclusive spaces.

Listen now to explore how small shifts in language, mindset, and action can make a big difference —not just for gender-diverse students but for us all. 

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Reflective questions relating to UNLEARN Episode 4:

Challenging Cisnormativity - Do you assume others share your gender identity or experiences? Reflect on when cisnormativity shaped your expectations. What small steps could you take to challenge those assumptions in daily practice?

From Awareness to Allyship - Rachel spoke about the gap between awareness and allyship. Reflecting on your own position and privilege, what’s one concrete action you can take this week to move from awareness to meaningful support in your classroom or workplace?

Building Confidence with Language - How comfortable are you with using terms like cisgender and transgender in professional conversations? Are there words you avoid because they feel unfamiliar or challenging? What could help you become more confident in using inclusive language?

Recognising Privilege - What privileges shape your understanding of gender? How does recognising privilege impact how you approach gender inclusion as an educator?

Changing Policies and Practices - Think about a policy, practice, or norm in your school or workplace that assumes everyone is cisgender. What’s one unspoken norm or assumption in your school that might marginalise gender-diverse students? How could you start changing it?




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